Breaking Up Is Hard To Do: How to Navigate a Relationship Break-Up

You may have heard the old pop song “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do.” Well, the song comes from a truth in life; there is much emotional stress from a relationship break-up. There are many causes for ending a partnership—some can be saved, and some cannot.

In this article, we want to look at what to do if you are planning to break off a romance. You want to be certain this is what is best for both of you, how to talk with your soon-to-be ex, and how to leave on good terms.

Is Breaking Up the Right Decision?

Are you sure the break in your relationship is serious enough to completely break it off? Sometimes we let small little things build up until we just feel like we just don’t want to do this anymore, when all it takes is a little compromise from both parties to make a happy couple.

Assessing the Relationship

What makes you think this partnership should end? Is it a serious break in trust, or is it just the fact that you have grown so accustomed to doing the same old thing that the spark has gone from the initial romance? We, as humans, tend to fall into routines without some reason for change. We have to supply that reason in our relationships or they get stale.

Stop running long enough to think about where you are in the relationship, how it all started, and whether it is something you would enjoy if the present problem was not there. Then decide if a break-up is necessary or if this love relationship can be saved. Sometimes we walk away from the best things in our life without realizing it.

Planning the Break-Up

If you decide to break it off, then you need to plan for how you will do that. Unless there is some serious problem between the two of you, like abuse, then you may want to try to stay as friends. How you handle the words spoken between you during the break-up will make all the difference.

Communicate Clearly and Calmly

Plan out what you are going to say. Be able to clearly state why you want to split up. Do not, under any circumstances, get into a shouting match or make a personal attack on the other person. Stay calm and pick your words carefully.

Give Them Space and Time

Tell them that you want to reconsider the relationship and get some space to think about it and why. Give them time to consider what you have said and respond. Then move forward depending on what their reaction is.

Leaving the Door Open

If you follow the above, you should be in a position to tell the other person you still like them, if you do, and that you still want to be friends. Leave the door open to reconsider the relationship. If you were very close, those feelings may come back once the problems of the partnership are resolved.

Severing Ties Completely

If you want to completely sever the relationship and never see them again, tell them why. It will help them recover from the break-up and make adjustments for the next relationship they get into.

Moving Forward

I wish you all the best with your life going forward. Breaking up is hard to do and can have a dramatic effect on your life. Follow the advice above and maybe your break-up will lead to a make-up.